Competing Without Compromising: How to Strengthen Your Relationship During Prep
Navigating Relationships During Prep: Advice from KOMPAK Athletes
For many athletes, competition prep is one of the most challenging yet rewarding journeys. It requires discipline, mental strength, and unwavering commitment. But what happens when you’re in a relationship while going through prep? How do you maintain a strong bond with your partner while pushing yourself to the limits?
We reached out to some of our amazing KOMPAK athletes to gather insights on how they’ve successfully balanced their relationships during prep. Here’s what they had to say.
Communication is Key
@nozkeanecoaching shares their experience and the importance of making time for each other.
“I’ve been through two preps with my boyfriend, and during one of them, he actually coached me. Communication is absolutely crucial. If you’re having a tough day, feeling drained, or struggling, just express how you’re feeling. If you don’t tell your partner, they won’t know how best to support you. We always try to plan fun, prep-friendly activities like coffee shop trips, long walks, going to the cinema, or arcade dates. These little things keep the connection strong.”
Listen. Communicate. Forgive. Understand.
@allisontestu has undergone 35 preps while being in a relationship. Their perspective?
“When I’m on prep, my partner understands everything I think, live, and experience. He gets the passion behind it, and we both support and push each other to be the best we can be.”
Their best advice? Listen to each other, communicate openly, and forgive minor slip-ups.
“Ask yourself—was that comment or action done intentionally to hurt me? If not, let it go.”
Competing Together: A Unique Advantage
@liftingwithlucy_pro has done a prep with and without her partner who competes himself!
“We have done a prep together and one each on our own. Surprisingly, we found the season where we both competed the easiest. This is because, in the moment, we knew what the other was going through, making it easier to relate to each other.
Lack of affection on the back end of prep can sometimes feel like rejection. My tip to the partner on prep is to reassure the other when needed and ensure that you communicate your thoughts and feelings clearly and effectively. Remember, prep affects your hormones and energy!
I am forever grateful for my partner, Remy, who always was my #1 supporter!”
Balancing Coaching & Relationships
@melwilkfit has competed in 20 shows over 4 years while being with my partner, who he is also her coach.
“We have had to work on differentiating between him being my coach and my partner. It’s important to separate emotions from what needs to be done from a coaching perspective.
My tips would be:
Communicate—Tell them WHY you want to prep and what it means to you.
Be mindful—Don’t be a witch when you’re tired, hungry, or exhausted.
Remember, you’re both in this together—It’s not their fault you’ve chosen to prep.
Have date nights—Don’t become a house hermit!
Include them in your show days—Make them feel part of the journey.
Stay positive!
Lloyd, thank you for being the best coach and partner!”
Gratitude, Alignment & Teamwork
@kerrysexton_ifbbpro talks about how her relationship is her anchor throughout her journey.
“Thank you, Marc, for being the best support system, even with your own huge goals. I’m so grateful that we align on the belief that support doesn’t begin or end with contest prep—it’s an ongoing commitment to each other.
Your patience, love, & unwavering belief in me mean the world. You’re constantly pushing me to be better, not just as a bodybuilder, but as a person, no matter the season. I wouldn’t want to do this journey without you!
Remember that you’re both going to have hard days. Be a team, & make sure the energy in the house stays positive. Respect their personal space if they need it. The struggles are temporary, but the journey is forever. Support each other with understanding—your relationship will strengthen & the journey will be a great one!”
Setting Expectations Early On
Prep can change a competitor’s schedule, mood, and availability. That’s why setting expectations early is vital.
Be upfront about how prep may affect your energy levels and time together.
Involve your partner where possible—whether it’s meal prepping together, training at the same time, or simply keeping them in the loop about your progress.
Appreciate their support and reassure them that your focus on prep doesn’t mean you care about them any less.
Creating Prep-Friendly Quality Time
Prep doesn’t have to mean neglecting your relationship. Competitors suggest fun, low-stress ways to spend time together, such as:
Going for long walks—great for both cardio and deep conversations.
Exploring new coffee spots—a simple yet enjoyable way to have a break together.
Watching movies at home or in theaters—a chance to unwind without the temptation of off-plan food.
Having early nights together—rest is crucial, and syncing schedules can help maintain intimacy.
Final Thoughts
Competing is a unique and demanding journey, but with open communication, understanding, and effort from both partners, relationships can thrive during prep. As many of our KOMPAK athletes have shown, having a supportive partner can even enhance the experience and drive you to be your best.
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